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You may have an intimate partner or you may be single. You may want in or you may want out. You’ve been hurt and you have probably hurt others. You wonder what happened to love, and even whether you are truly capable of giving and receiving it. You’ve done your best – and hopefully by now, your worst. You know that the quality of your connection with others is somehow vital to your own evolution.
Now you are ready to take your relationships to a new level.

Secretly, most of us feel that we missed out 
when the having-truly-happy-and-fulfilling-relationships genes were given out. No matter how we appear from the outside, we find relating beset with difficulties that we seem at a loss to resolve. We may feel fearful and anxious in the most familiar of social situations. We can feel separate and alone, even in our most intimate moments. We may conceal it, but the truth is we all yearn to know that we belong, to be able to fully express who we are, to be seen and known, to love and be loved. Most of our learning about relationships has been how not to have happy ones!

Happily, our relationships can be our greatest teachers, and the challenges, frustrations and problems they present us with can be the very keys to our own growth and evolution
. With a little honesty and willingness we can transform obstacles into opportunities and 
difficulties into doorways, and nurture the loving connections we yearn for.